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The Green Smoothie Challenge
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The Green Smoothie Challenge

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Sunday, August 9, 2009

Good Mommy Tips

I'm out on the lake for the weekend with some wonderful friends who are all called "mommy" by some amazing littler people. We have had some really great conversations and I thought I'd share some of the wisdom that has been passed around. One thing that we have talked a lot about are emotions. So many of us were raised with the idea that emotions are bad and are not to be felt.

Emotions in fact are neutral. They are not bad or good or right or wrong in and of themselves. They are actually a very real, God given part of who we are and how we interpret the world. Emotions are a thing to be very aware of and to feel. What we do with our emotions is the part that we must be very careful about. We can easily act in a very destructive manner as a result of our emotions, especially when we attempt not to feel them. It is so important when we are acting out or when our children are doing that, to sit down and decide what is causing that behavior. Am I sad, worried, angry, stressed, tired, hungry, frustrated or...?? It is so important to validate that feeling. Often times just validating our own or our children's emotions is enough to get relief from it. Trying not to feel it is where we often err. This does not help and usually ends up in an explosion of emotion at a later time. A better way to deal with it is to realize that it is our choice as to how we handle and think about whatever is bothering us.

I have written an article about changing your thinking that you may find helpful and that you can link to right here. So, realize that what you experienced was in fact scary, stressful, frustrating, sad, etc... and next, think about it in a way that will help the situation. You must not despair. You alone can control how you think and behave about your circumstances. You may not be able to change them, but figure out what you can do to make the situation better and focus on that instead of on what you cannot change or do anything about. This is so important to grasp as a "mommy" because it makes a difference in how we talk to our children when they are upset. Validate their feelings and then, right away, get them thinking about what they can do about the situation. Very often the simple concept of returning evil with love will solve their situation. When they did not return evil with love, teach them to seek forgiveness for their part in the situation. Teach them practical ways of returning evil with love while still maintaining healthy boundaries so they see when others do actually treat them wrongly. Acknowledge that what the other person did was rude, mean, hurtful, etc... but that if we love them back even after they treated us wrongly, we will do more to help them than anything else we could do.

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